Another thing, too, and this is what gets me: there's looking and there's being a creep.
Turning one's head and glancing when someone attractive walks past is one thing. Deciding to then
a) continue to look, in a fixed, leery creepy state b) masturbate c) get annoyingly close to the person you're looking at d) initiate unwanted conversation e) touch that person f) hit on that person and then rant and rave and call them names when they ignore or refuse you
is NOT appropriate. Ever. Unless the person has already said something like, "Hey, you're really hot, let's exchange phone numbers," and you know what? I've never done that. And I've never seen ANYONE do that.
And I honestly don't get the "you're a whore" mentality, either. Assuming I WAS a sex worker, and was out looking for business, wouldn't there be a discussion of a financial transaction taking place? But... no. "Whore" doesn't mean anything more than an excuse to use a word linking women and sex in a derogatory comment, and in that sense, in the most ironic way possible. (You're a whore for NOT putting out? How the fuck does that work?)
I had a similar thing happen a few weeks ago. This guy kept leering at me on the train, and offered to help me with the pram (I'd once politely said, "No thanks," then he asked again, I said "no thanks," then he got in my face about what was my fucking problem? When I pointed out that I'd already declined his offer, he went apeshit and was stomping up Flinders Street Station yelling abuse at me. Yes, I got called a whore, amongst other things.
My two kids were with me, as if that story couldn't get any more disturbing.)
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Date: 2008-04-29 03:48 am (UTC)Turning one's head and glancing when someone attractive walks past is one thing. Deciding to then
a) continue to look, in a fixed, leery creepy state
b) masturbate
c) get annoyingly close to the person you're looking at
d) initiate unwanted conversation
e) touch that person
f) hit on that person and then rant and rave and call them names when they ignore or refuse you
is NOT appropriate. Ever. Unless the person has already said something like, "Hey, you're really hot, let's exchange phone numbers," and you know what? I've never done that. And I've never seen ANYONE do that.
And I honestly don't get the "you're a whore" mentality, either. Assuming I WAS a sex worker, and was out looking for business, wouldn't there be a discussion of a financial transaction taking place? But... no. "Whore" doesn't mean anything more than an excuse to use a word linking women and sex in a derogatory comment, and in that sense, in the most ironic way possible. (You're a whore for NOT putting out? How the fuck does that work?)
I had a similar thing happen a few weeks ago. This guy kept leering at me on the train, and offered to help me with the pram (I'd once politely said, "No thanks," then he asked again, I said "no thanks," then he got in my face about what was my fucking problem? When I pointed out that I'd already declined his offer, he went apeshit and was stomping up Flinders Street Station yelling abuse at me. Yes, I got called a whore, amongst other things.
My two kids were with me, as if that story couldn't get any more disturbing.)