Um, not having a go at you here, but these men are ADULTS, and part of being an adult is being able to control urges and behaviours which are going to harm other people in society.
It's torment for him to see a scantily-clad woman at the beach? Who isn't sexually interested in him? Maybe he should either get over it, or stop going to the beach. Honestly-- entitlement complex. And a lot of guys-- even the nice ones-- fail to get it on levels. It's not about them being a subspecies, it's about them being brought up in a world that has taught them that women are a second class type of person and are just there to provide them with something, or they're worthless.
It doesn't mean that they're write-offs, by any means, but that they probably should step back and think about how it would be to be stuck in a female body for awhile.
The women in question MIGHT have been flirting with him: maybe. But did they go over and hit on him? Did he try any kind of litmus test to see if they were more interested and then back off/give them his number depending on their reaction? No. He chose to be a big privileged whiner and vent about it on his blog instead.
And then there are the guys who are so entitlementy that they believe that no one would possibly refuse them. The guys who think teenagers in school uniforms are trying to be sexy. (Um, newsflash: when I was a kid, I had to wear the damn thing because it was compulsory. And I caught public transport when getting home from school. I was NOT asking for sexual attention: I was going about my daily business. And I've had leery, creepy men think I was wanting it when I was dressed in a relatively conservative manner, but from stuff they said, I was "wanting it." Maybe these women were just going for a swim and don't like the feeling of one-pieces? Maybe they WERE "putting on a show" but for someone else?)
Fat and ugly men don't bother me at all. ANY guys-- not just the physically unappealing ones-- are capable of thinking women are just there to get them off, and guys right across the appearance and body-shape spectrum can be offensive and scary. Hey, have a look at Ted Bundy. He was pretty hot, if you ignore the personality.
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Date: 2008-04-29 04:00 am (UTC)It's torment for him to see a scantily-clad woman at the beach? Who isn't sexually interested in him? Maybe he should either get over it, or stop going to the beach. Honestly-- entitlement complex. And a lot of guys-- even the nice ones-- fail to get it on levels. It's not about them being a subspecies, it's about them being brought up in a world that has taught them that women are a second class type of person and are just there to provide them with something, or they're worthless.
It doesn't mean that they're write-offs, by any means, but that they probably should step back and think about how it would be to be stuck in a female body for awhile.
The women in question MIGHT have been flirting with him: maybe. But did they go over and hit on him? Did he try any kind of litmus test to see if they were more interested and then back off/give them his number depending on their reaction? No. He chose to be a big privileged whiner and vent about it on his blog instead.
And then there are the guys who are so entitlementy that they believe that no one would possibly refuse them. The guys who think teenagers in school uniforms are trying to be sexy. (Um, newsflash: when I was a kid, I had to wear the damn thing because it was compulsory. And I caught public transport when getting home from school. I was NOT asking for sexual attention: I was going about my daily business. And I've had leery, creepy men think I was wanting it when I was dressed in a relatively conservative manner, but from stuff they said, I was "wanting it." Maybe these women were just going for a swim and don't like the feeling of one-pieces? Maybe they WERE "putting on a show" but for someone else?)
Fat and ugly men don't bother me at all. ANY guys-- not just the physically unappealing ones-- are capable of thinking women are just there to get them off, and guys right across the appearance and body-shape spectrum can be offensive and scary. Hey, have a look at Ted Bundy. He was pretty hot, if you ignore the personality.